50 wedding tips you really need to know about

(Twist wrap dresses by Dessy in blush pink.)

It's always easy to be wise after the event. Think to yourself: "Oh I wish I'd known that" and "Why didn't somebody tell me."

Well to help you in the run-up to your wedding day, we asked some past brides what they thought girls should know in the run up to their wedding. Here's what they told us.

The 50 pieces of wedding advice to take note of

  1. Having a videographer. Not having a wedding video is top of the list of brides regrets
  2. Remember to wear your wedding shoes in before the big day. On carpet at home, so they're comfortable
  3. If you're wearing high heels and you're usually in flats then get practising walking in them - so you glide, not stumble
  4. Make sure the ushers know what being an usher means. That is, showing people to their seats and handing over the order of service. Not standing chatting. People milling about, not sure where to sit is not how to make your guests feel welcome and relaxed
  5. Remember that there will be a few unforeseen glitches on your wedding day. So go with the flow and don't overstress about them. (Like the weather, a guest turning up wearing white, guests being late.)
  6. Offer a chill out room for young children to watch a DVD, play and snooze during the evening reception
  7. Have somewhere comfortable and quiet for guests to sit, chat and catch up after the reception - a must if you're planning on having noisy music! And the oldies really like it.
  8. Serve plenty of soft drinks and tea and coffee after the reception. Also plenty of water on the tables - jugs of tap water are quite acceptable
  9. Prebook taxis for the oldies and have a local taxi firm on standby
  10. Practise holding your bouquet at hip level - not at waist level. Looks much better in photographs that way
  11. You don't have to wear white or ivory shoes. A bright colour or a metallic can look fabulous (and you're likely to wear those shoes over and over again)
  12. Don't wear high heels at a beach wedding. DO have a pedicure. (Maybe for the groom too.)
  13. If your wedding gown is strapless, you could cover your shoulders with a lace shrug for the ceremony and then unveil a new look for the reception and evening party
  14. Ask your bridesmaids what style of dress they feel would flatter them. And then offer them suitable choices
  15. Some bridal registry companies let guests contribute to the cost of a honeymoon
  16. Check real wedding photography to see what style suits you. It might be reportage. It might be something more traditional. Give yourself time to research different photographers in your area
  17. Marry in winter or mid-week and you'll find your budget stretches further and you have more venue options
  18. How about wearing a colored petticoat peeping out from under your wedding dress?
  19. Investigate wedding dress sample sales if you're on a tight budget - you could find the designer dress of your dreams at a cut price
  20. Flowergirls don't have to hold bouquets. Maybe just baskets of confetti?
  21. Don't have a facial just before your wedding day because you'll risk a breakout. No later than 10 days before your wedding probably best
  22. Have a singles table at your wedding reception and see what happens. Mix everyone up. Don't lump the singles with the marrieds. That is very boring for them. They want to have a bit of a party. Flirt.
  23. Save money on transport and ask a relative or friend with an amazing car if they could drive you to the church and reception.
  24. Use a wedding budget planner on your phone to help you keep track of spending
  25. Set your wedding budget first before you do anything
  26. Your best friend might not be your best chief bridesmaid. You need somebody who is super efficient and organised
  27. Marry at lunchtime and have an evening party and you're going to have to feed guests at least twice - which can be expensive. Maybe consider a late afternoon wedding instead?
  28. Consider having a mini-moon after your wedding day and a more extended honeymoon later on
  29. Show your hairdresser snaps of the neckline of your wedding dress so you can be advised on the most flattering hairstyle
  30. Choose a neckline to suit your figure - strapless, one shoulder, sweetheart ... more tips here
  31. Think about your dress fabric and the time of year. Duchesse satin in winter. Light chiffons in warmer weather
  32. Bridesmaids can get chilly with bare shoulders. Drape a colour co-ordinate pashmina around them whilst they are waiting for photographs (they make a good bridesmaid gift too).
  33. You don't have to have a formal sit down dinner. Buffet style might suit you a lot better - with free seating for the guests
  34. Let men know the dress code. Lounge suits, morning suits or black tie. It's embarassing to turn up in the wrong clothes
  35. If your venue location is perfect but you find the inside of the room uninspiring, consider room draping to turn it into something spectacular
  36. Wedding wellies are the perfect way to go if you're having to walk to and from the car on a potentially wet wedding day
  37. Don't underestimate the amount of time a DIY wedding actually takes - really, how long will it take you to handcraft 150 invitations?
  38. Buy a good quality, plain iced supermarket tier cake - and then decorate it with fresh flowers to save money.
  39. Serve substantial canapes and you could may not have to offer a starter
  40. Give each of your bridesmaids, flowergirls and pageboys a framed photograph of you all together on your wedding day
  41. Ice cream vans and a dessert table work well at summer weddings held in marquees
  42. Choose wedding flowers that are in season rather than expensive exotic blooms that have to be flown in
  43. Let your bridesgroom get involved with the wedding planning - split up the tasks between you
  44. If your mother in law wants to help, then let her. Give her some jobs that you're happy to delegate to her
  45. Remember it's your wedding day and should follow the format you want (although if you're having financial help from parents they are allowed some say in it!)
  46. Marrying abroad (in Italy) can be a much less expensive to tie the knot and it would be just as super gorgeous.
  47. Save The Dates are essential in these busy times if you want most of the invited guests to be able to attend
  48. Bridesmaids don't have to wear the same style or dress or even the same colour. Choose co-ordinating colours or go for an ombre effect
  49. If you're having a first dance together then practise. You might even want to have some lessons
  50. You are marrying your soul mate. The One. Nothing else matters really.