Your wedding day is not a dress rehearsal (although if you're wise, you'll have a quick rehearsal before the day itself so everybody knows what they should be doing and where they should be).
So it's crucial that you make the right decisions beforehand - so that after your big day you're not saying to yourself: "Oh, I wish I'd thought of that" or "I wish I hadn't decided to do that".
What other brides have said
We talked to some recent brides and asked them if there were any things about their wedding day that they would change. Here's the list.
- A bride's top regret? Not having a videographer on their wedding day. You may think that photographs and phone videos from your friends will be enough but actually, having professionally shot footage for your big day is not something you'll regret (and you'll love watching the film with your future grandchildren!)
- Asking a friend to be a wedding photographer. You may have a friend who is a great photographer who has offered to take shots and you'll be v tempted. However, friends will at some point want to go off and join the party (and miss that key shot) whereas a professional photographer will stay the course until the very end. Also, what if the friend's photos aren't really up to scratch?
- Having your wedding cake made by a friend or a family member. This could be a difficult one, particularly if they ask to make your cake. Unless you're having a very homespun wedding or they are a professional cake maker, then our advice would be to graciously refuse. What if you don't like the look of the final finished cake or it's badly baked? What will you say? Maybe you could ask them to make a cake for your batchelorette party instead?
- Not wearing in their wedding shoes around the house before they walk down the aisle. Hello sore feet. Plan ahead. Wear those heels on the carpet around your home so that your feet get used to them.
- Having flowergirls that are too young. Young flowergirls are super cute, but if they get shy on the day itself and refuse to participate, or walk down the aisle behind you, then there's not much point having them really.
- Giving in to pressure to invite people you don't really want to come to your wedding day.
- Worrying too much before the big day. Nothing will go exactly as planned, you may have to just go with the flow.
- Not having wedding insurance. Chances are you won't need it and if you have it, then there's one less thing to worry about.
- Not eating enough at the wedding reception or tasting the cake. You don't want to come over all faint and you do want to see just how delicious that menu you chose was.
- Not quietly going off with your new married partner and taking some time alone together. Your wedding day will be all over far too quickly, so snatch a bit of time together so that you can catch up.