Getting married is one of the most exciting moments in your relationship, but it can also cause quite a bit of stress on the both of you. It's important to focus on keeping the little fights to a minimum and maximizing the love in the air. Its's natural for the romance to fizzle during the long stage of wedding errands, however you don't have to wait until the honeymoon to rekindle that fire. From pre-engagement talk to wedding day events, follow these simple ground rules to deal with the changes to come in your love life.
Naturally, there are certain things about your partner that are going to bother you, and it goes both ways. From the beginning, establish a sense of honesty in your relationship. Go into the wedding planning process with the idea that you should both be able to express how you feel in certain situations. With an open line of communication, you will likely feel less lasting resentment.
Date Night is Important
Talking about wedding plans at a local coffee shop does not count as a date! Carve out time in your busy schedules to actually go out and enjoy yourselves without thinking or conversing about the wedding at all. It's necessary to take a break from all of your to-do lists and focus on the true meaning of your marriage.
Motivate Each Other
Stress does so much to our bodies and minds. When stress levels are high, it's the most critical time to focus on your health. Help each other stay active by going to the gym together, or taking a hike. Plan out nutritious meals and make a date out of cooking for each other. Not only will it keep your bodies in tip shop shape for the big day, but studies show you will feel less of the effects of stress when you are abiding by a proper diet and exercise routine.
Repeat: don't wait until the honeymoon to unleash the romance! Plan a weekend retreat, day trip, or even staycation to prelude the honeymoon. Think of your "mini moon" as an opportunity to unplug and just be together. Taking this time away will help your relationship flourish and also eliminate those pre-wedding jitters.
Simple Reminders of Love
We tend to forget that whisper the simple words "I love you" really means so much. Especially when tensions have been high, stop to just show your love towards each other. Small things make the difference, like leaving a note out before your lover goes to work to simply remind them. Verbalizing those three words can negate all those harsh feelings that have been slipping into your mind.
Photos by M&J Studios and Logan Cole Photography.
With Valentine's day coming up next Sunday, there is love in the air. Valentine's Day is a day of expressing love to everyone around you and taking the time to appreciate the great love you have present in your life. Take the time to take a closer look at your relationship. If you are newly engaged, recently married, or celebrating your twentieth anniversary, there's a reason why the two of your souls were meant to be together. Sometimes it's hard to articulate exactly what that love means to you, so we gathered our favorite quotes about romance. Whether you incorporate them in your vows, verbally recite them to your partner, or write them down on a card, share them with your nearest and dearest this Valentine's Day!
"To be brave is to love unconditionally without expecting anything in return." -Madonna
"To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." -David Viscot
"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable." -Bruce Lee
"I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, every day we are together is the greatest day of my life." -The Notebook
"We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it." -John Lennon
"I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together." -Julia Roberts
Photos by Tyler Branch Photography, Cole Logan Photography, Merari Photography, and Arnau Dubois.
He popped the question, you said yes and now you're celebrating the fab news at an evening soirée with your nearest and dearest. So the burning question is...what to wear at your engagement party?
If it's an evening do, I'd definitely go for something dark, figure-hugging and elegant; after all, you've taken a pretty grown-up step getting engaged, so why not go the whole hog and wear a grown-up outfit? And steer clear of anything remotely bridal - the time will come for that!
I love this Perseus dress (left) from Monsoon (Perseus was the brother of Helen of Troy, who was so beautiful that her face famously launched a thousand ships after she eloped/was kidnapped by Paris, thus beginning the Trojan War).
And I think that if you wore this dress, you really would feel and look incredibly beautiful and quite the radiant bride-to-be.
A less structured but equally as beguiling dress from Phase Eight is this Prima Rosa Maxi Dress (below), perfect to wear as you sip your champagne and circulate round the room, excitedly talking to everyone about your plans for the forthcoming nuptials.
Alternatively you could opt for the understated beauty of this stunning full-length Dessy gown Style 6741 (left) with cut-away sides revealing a silver metallic bodice. The close-up is featured at the top of the page which enables you to see quite how alluring it is.
You don't have to wear long, of course. This high-lo dress (below) from Dessy is superbly glamorous, with its black fleur embroidery overlay, 3/4 length sleeves and deep V back. The modified circle skirt gives a glorious sweep as you turn and you'll feel the absolute Belle of the Ball.
The floral jacquard Verdure Tapestry Dress from Hobbs (below) is the height of sophistication and is a perfect example of what to wear at your engagement party; simply cut, colourful without being garish, and classy - what more could you - or your fiancé - ask for?
If you're recently engaged and ready to jump in head first, we recommend stopping to take the time to really celebrate what has just transpired in your life. Whether it's stepping away for a rejuvenating moment alone, or creating memories with family and friends, you'll want to cross off a few of these to-dos off your list before the main event. After all, your engagement is a milestone that should be cherished for years to come!
Go On a Date
It may seem simple, but going on a proper date after the proposal will truly seal the deal. You want to be able to soak up the excitement alone without any other distractions. Treat yourselves to a day in the city or a romantic dinner to signify your own personal little engagement party.
Show Off the Ring
The best part is having the pleasure of telling all your friends and family of the fabulous news! Take a creative photo of your engagement ring to send out and post to social media. It's always nice to say a little something sentimental along with the photo.
Take a Trip
Your honeymoon may be a ways off when you get get engaged so make the time in your schedule to get away before all the big planning takes place. It doesn't have to be far away but it does have to be a trip that is both relaxing and romantic.
Hire a Photographer
Oh the art of engagement photos! After you've said yes to the ring, start researcher a place, time, and theme for some sentimental photos of you and your beloved.
Have a Party
Kicking off the wedding planning process is always the engagement party! Whether casual house party or formal soiree, let the champagne corks fly! Invite those closest to you to send you off on the journey to your special day.
Photos by Rhythm Photography, Black Hue Photography, Bonnallie Brodeur Photography, Arnau Dubois Photography, Open Iris Photography, and Valentina Glidden.
One of my best (male) friends recently proposed to his Russian girlfriend. Being one of the world's most thoughtful and charming of men (and a Virgo to boot, which I always find a huge help), he had planned the proposal enough to know the location and what he was going to say, but not so much that the romance of the moment was lost in a sheet of to-do notes.
With thanks to Ian Britton for this beautiful photo of a romantic sunset via Freefoto.com
As the two of them strolled back hand in hand from a late lunch in London on Christmas Eve, they stopped to watch the sun setting over the Thames and he said,
It is the most romantic way to propose that I think I've ever heard!
He had wisely ensured that neither of them had had too much to drink at lunch, he had already decided that they would go to Paris to buy the ring together, and he really meant what he said - he wanted nothing more than to grow old with his beautiful wife and help her follow in the footsteps of her blissfully happy grandparents.
They told me how they had subsequently had such a romantic time in Paris the following week visiting many of the joyous jewellers in Place VendÃ´me before buying an exquisite, emerald-cut diamond set in platinum, flanked by a diamond baguette on each side - divine!
My friend laughed at his naiveté when, remembering that his fiancée's favourite colour was green, he had enquired about emerald engagement rings in one of the shops - the assistant had taken them downstairs to a vault to view an emerald ring that was absolutely spectacular. My friend discreetly enquired as to the price tag; at ‚¬70,000 he decided to hot-foot it back to the ground floor and stick to the diamonds!
While that happy couple were in Paris in the last week of 2015, I travelled to Rome which I find one of THE most romantic cities in Europe, if not the whole world. There, on New Year's Eve, I witnessed an American gent take his girlfriend's hand, studiously throw a coin into the fountain, pause to make a wish and then down on one knee he went before popping the question. After she had said yes and the surrounding crowd and whooped and given their congratulations, the new fiancee asked why he had thrown the coin in before he asked her. "I wasn't taking any chances so I wished that you'd give me the answer I wanted!" he replied.
- The romantic Trevi Fountain as capture by Stephen Lyons for Freefoto.com
So although summer is definitely the time when most couples actually tie the knot, winter is the most popular season for proposals in the UK. But fear not if you weren't the recipient of a romantic proposal this Yuletide. According to Chillisauce, the UK hen and stag party organisers, whereas boys think that Christmas Eve is the best time to pop the question, girls think that Valentine's Day is THE most romantic day to become engaged. So there's time yet...
Decking the halls with boughs of holly, navigating the mall to search for the perfect gifts, and singing christmas carols while the snow gently falls outside, it's always the most wonderful time of the year. However just as common as folks greeting each other with a simple "Merry Christmas" is the awaited phrase "Will you Marry Me?" among couples. Why you ask? The holiday season is filled to the brim with fun and excitement. It's the one time of the year where spirits are most bright and cheery and an engagement at this time of year just feels natural. The memories of years past add a very sentimental value to a very important new memory that you are making together in the next step of your lives. Although on the other hand some may consider aspects of the season to be stressful, an engagement is also an opportunity to be reminded of the joy that surrounds. We also love that there is a very over-the-top quality of the holidays in general. Couples who want to stage a big proposal have plenty of opportunity to do so in a picturesque setting with a large audience. In many cases the hope is that the people in the audience are also family members of the beloved. Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years are traditionally a time for families to reunite and spend quality time together. What is more special than sharing your own special moment with everyone that you care for in one place? Not to mention there's one secret perk for the brides...some men feel inclined to spend more than they would have normally planned on an engagement ring during the holiday season. Whether it's neatly wrapped in paper and ribbon under the tree or served with champagne at the stroke midnight on New Year's Eve, in our opinion a diamond ring is the greatest holiday gift of all!
Share your holiday engagement photos with us on social media by tagging #RealDessyWeddings!
Photos by Willes Milton Photography, Casso Tweed Idalia Photography, Imago Dei Photography, and Stephanie Hunter Photography.
Engagement season will soon be here if it isn't already for most couples, so we thought we would provide some "Dos and “Don'ts" when it comes to announcing your engagement.
Do tell your parents or immediate family members first before telling the rest of the world. This should be done in person or on the phone if possible.
Don't put it on social media before telling immediate family members – like your parents. The last thing you want is your mother or father finding out through a Facebook status.
Do be prepared for people sending messages wanting to see the ring. Just because they're asking doesn't mean you need to immediately show them.
Don't forget to tell close friends before telling the rest of the world. Let's be serious, will you really forget? We didn't think you would either.
Do expect to have a wedding date and time of year in mind upon announcing the engagement. You will want to start looking for a venue pretty quickly after you make your announcement.
Don't feel you have to though! It is all up to you!
Do go out and get a manicure before taking that engagement ring selfie. Psst! Send us your selfies! Click here to see what you need to do!
Don't be afraid to refrain from answering the tough questions about your ring. Like how much the ring was, the number of carats it is, etc.
Do expect you will have friends and even family members who won't be entirely happy for your happiness. It happens.
Don't allow anyone to try on your ring, it can be admired on your hand, but not on someone else's.
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