Getting married is one of the most exciting moments in your relationship, but it can also cause quite a bit of stress on the both of you. It's important to focus on keeping the little fights to a minimum and maximizing the love in the air. Its's natural for the romance to fizzle during the long stage of wedding errands, however you don't have to wait until the honeymoon to rekindle that fire. From pre-engagement talk to wedding day events, follow these simple ground rules to deal with the changes to come in your love life.
Naturally, there are certain things about your partner that are going to bother you, and it goes both ways. From the beginning, establish a sense of honesty in your relationship. Go into the wedding planning process with the idea that you should both be able to express how you feel in certain situations. With an open line of communication, you will likely feel less lasting resentment.
Date Night is Important
Talking about wedding plans at a local coffee shop does not count as a date! Carve out time in your busy schedules to actually go out and enjoy yourselves without thinking or conversing about the wedding at all. It's necessary to take a break from all of your to-do lists and focus on the true meaning of your marriage.
Motivate Each Other
Stress does so much to our bodies and minds. When stress levels are high, it's the most critical time to focus on your health. Help each other stay active by going to the gym together, or taking a hike. Plan out nutritious meals and make a date out of cooking for each other. Not only will it keep your bodies in tip shop shape for the big day, but studies show you will feel less of the effects of stress when you are abiding by a proper diet and exercise routine.
Repeat: don't wait until the honeymoon to unleash the romance! Plan a weekend retreat, day trip, or even staycation to prelude the honeymoon. Think of your "mini moon" as an opportunity to unplug and just be together. Taking this time away will help your relationship flourish and also eliminate those pre-wedding jitters.
Simple Reminders of Love
We tend to forget that whisper the simple words "I love you" really means so much. Especially when tensions have been high, stop to just show your love towards each other. Small things make the difference, like leaving a note out before your lover goes to work to simply remind them. Verbalizing those three words can negate all those harsh feelings that have been slipping into your mind.
Photos by M&J Studios and Logan Cole Photography.
With Valentine's day coming up next Sunday, there is love in the air. Valentine's Day is a day of expressing love to everyone around you and taking the time to appreciate the great love you have present in your life. Take the time to take a closer look at your relationship. If you are newly engaged, recently married, or celebrating your twentieth anniversary, there's a reason why the two of your souls were meant to be together. Sometimes it's hard to articulate exactly what that love means to you, so we gathered our favorite quotes about romance. Whether you incorporate them in your vows, verbally recite them to your partner, or write them down on a card, share them with your nearest and dearest this Valentine's Day!
"To be brave is to love unconditionally without expecting anything in return." -Madonna
"To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." -David Viscot
"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable." -Bruce Lee
"I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, every day we are together is the greatest day of my life." -The Notebook
"We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it." -John Lennon
"I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together." -Julia Roberts
Photos by Tyler Branch Photography, Cole Logan Photography, Merari Photography, and Arnau Dubois.
If you're recently engaged and ready to jump in head first, we recommend stopping to take the time to really celebrate what has just transpired in your life. Whether it's stepping away for a rejuvenating moment alone, or creating memories with family and friends, you'll want to cross off a few of these to-dos off your list before the main event. After all, your engagement is a milestone that should be cherished for years to come!
Go On a Date
It may seem simple, but going on a proper date after the proposal will truly seal the deal. You want to be able to soak up the excitement alone without any other distractions. Treat yourselves to a day in the city or a romantic dinner to signify your own personal little engagement party.
Show Off the Ring
The best part is having the pleasure of telling all your friends and family of the fabulous news! Take a creative photo of your engagement ring to send out and post to social media. It's always nice to say a little something sentimental along with the photo.
Take a Trip
Your honeymoon may be a ways off when you get get engaged so make the time in your schedule to get away before all the big planning takes place. It doesn't have to be far away but it does have to be a trip that is both relaxing and romantic.
Hire a Photographer
Oh the art of engagement photos! After you've said yes to the ring, start researcher a place, time, and theme for some sentimental photos of you and your beloved.
Have a Party
Kicking off the wedding planning process is always the engagement party! Whether casual house party or formal soiree, let the champagne corks fly! Invite those closest to you to send you off on the journey to your special day.
Photos by Rhythm Photography, Black Hue Photography, Bonnallie Brodeur Photography, Arnau Dubois Photography, Open Iris Photography, and Valentina Glidden.
Decking the halls with boughs of holly, navigating the mall to search for the perfect gifts, and singing christmas carols while the snow gently falls outside, it's always the most wonderful time of the year. However just as common as folks greeting each other with a simple "Merry Christmas" is the awaited phrase "Will you Marry Me?" among couples. Why you ask? The holiday season is filled to the brim with fun and excitement. It's the one time of the year where spirits are most bright and cheery and an engagement at this time of year just feels natural. The memories of years past add a very sentimental value to a very important new memory that you are making together in the next step of your lives. Although on the other hand some may consider aspects of the season to be stressful, an engagement is also an opportunity to be reminded of the joy that surrounds. We also love that there is a very over-the-top quality of the holidays in general. Couples who want to stage a big proposal have plenty of opportunity to do so in a picturesque setting with a large audience. In many cases the hope is that the people in the audience are also family members of the beloved. Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years are traditionally a time for families to reunite and spend quality time together. What is more special than sharing your own special moment with everyone that you care for in one place? Not to mention there's one secret perk for the brides...some men feel inclined to spend more than they would have normally planned on an engagement ring during the holiday season. Whether it's neatly wrapped in paper and ribbon under the tree or served with champagne at the stroke midnight on New Year's Eve, in our opinion a diamond ring is the greatest holiday gift of all!
Share your holiday engagement photos with us on social media by tagging #RealDessyWeddings!
Photos by Willes Milton Photography, Casso Tweed Idalia Photography, Imago Dei Photography, and Stephanie Hunter Photography.
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Amazing as it is to believe, the official start of fall is fast approaching. With that, wineries enter crush season … aka one of the best times of the year to throw a wine country bachelorette. As veterans of multiple wine country trips, here are some of our favorite things to do (and wear) on a wine country bachelorette.
Where to Go:
Napa and Sonoma are the obvious choices, but don’t discount other areas of the country if a flight to San Francisco isn’t in the cards. The Finger Lakes region in upstate New York has some stand-out wines, and you can have a fabulous time in more off-the-beaten path wineries in Virginia, Maryland, Texas, or the Midwest.
Key Things to Remember:
The itinerary is crucial to pulling off a great day of wine tasting. Keep the number of stops to four or fewer. You should budget at least 90 minutes per stop and look for wineries that are fairly close to avoid too much time spent in transit. Hire a driver or plan to bike so everyone can enjoy the wine along the way without worrying about how you’ll get home. Make sure to budget some time to eat (wine, sadly, is not food). You can also score some great deals on tastings if you plan on purchasing some wine along the way – check in with the bride and her fiancé about their favorite varietals as you plan the day.
Want a special gift for the bride for her to tuck away her purchases? Get her this adorable Best Day Ever Tote bag available at Dessy.com to hold all her winery purchases.
The Best Day Ever Tote bag comes in a variety of colors!
What to Bring:
Make sure to pack for comfort and style! Bring things that will be easy to walk around in, as you’ll be traipsing around vineyards, so pick up some great sandals.
It can get chilly in the evenings, so grab shawls for the group, we recommend the Pashmina Shawl/Evening Shawl and a simple, cute jersey dress will make an easy transition from a day of wine tasting to a fancy dinner out on the town … plus being indestructible and the easiest thing in the world to pack.
The Pashmina Shawl/Evening Shawl, Scarlett dress by After Six and T-Strap Sandal are all you need for your day at the winery!
Most important thing of all? Have fun, and leave time for a post wine tasting nap. Trust us on that one.
Getting engaged is a wonderful time, there is so much to look forward to and so much to enjoy as you plan one of the most important days in your life. We thought we would share some more highlights of your engagement that will definitely make you love this time even more!
1. You won’t stop smiling! Smiling is always a good thing, especially when the person you love more than anything has asked you to marry them. This will be wonderful feeling especially when you know you are going to be with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Smiling this much will also come in handy for all of those beautiful engagement photos you will take.
2. You’ll get to be the center of attention! For the first few months of your engagement, people will want to know about how he proposed and they will want to see your ring and want to know what your wedding plans are. Who doesn’t love being the center of attention every once in a while?
A beautiful photo like this is a reason to love your engagement! Photo by Nick Ghattas Photography
3. Magazines, wedding websites and more! Who doesn’t love looking at wedding magazines, wedding websites, downloading apps and even creating a wedding board on Pinterest for their dream wedding? Well now it isn’t just dream, it will soon be a reality. Make sure to visit The Dessy Group Pinterest page for your wedding!
4. Engagement ring selfies will definitely be a must during your engagement! Especially today with social media sites like Instagram and Facebook being so popular for these types of pictures!
5. Shopping for a wedding dress is always fun! One of the first things you will do and definitely enjoy doing is shopping for a wedding dress.
6. You get to pick some of your favorite people as your bridesmaids! Over the years you probably envisioned who would stand beside you as you say “I do” and now you get the opportunity to tell those important people in your life how much they mean to you by asking them to be part of your special day. And after you've picked your bridesmaids, be sure to check out all of our newest spring bridesmaid dresses at Dessy.com!
7. Engagement party– Yes! Whether you’re planning a big shindig or something quite and intimate with just close family and friends, your engagement party is one of the many perks about getting engaged! More reasons to love being engaged!