So, the proposal's been made, the celebratory champagne has been drunk and now you've got to decide how to start planning your wedding. Where to begin?
Whenever you're discussing anything, it's always better to be well-nourished before you start off, otherwise two things happen:
- your blood sugar level will be low and you are more likely to be grumpy
- you are less likely to make good decisions.
Don't get overwhelmed by the enormity of whole thing: do the brainstorming over a couple of weeks, and then add the layers of details over the following months.
So for the first session, plan a quiet evening together: have a good meal, turn off your phones and computers and settle down with a warm cup of cocoa or tea.
Sounds mad, doesn't it? But you are more likely to feel favourably towards someone if you have a hot drink in your hand than a cool one, so don't take any chances!
Way before you get into any sort of nitty gritty about the wedding there will be a few fundamental questions that need answering and so just spend a while compiling a list of questions that you will need to answer before you can really move on. Here are my top 10 things to consider when planning your wedding:
- Who is paying for the wedding? The two of you, your parents, your friends or a mix of all three? Would your parents be upset if you didn't expect them to contribute, or mightily relieved? Are your friends in a position to help fund your wedding or is that a bit cheeky?And don't forget, there will always be little extra expenditure items along the way that you won't have bargained for!
- Is there a ballpark budget? Will you consider a Wedding Planner or DIY? Brides Magazine carried out a survey in 2015 and found out that their readers spent an average of over £30,000 on their weddings...
- What time of year do you want to get married? Is there a special month for you or would you rather be dictated by the venue availability?
- Where do you think you'd like to have the ceremony in a perfect world? Church, registry office or special venue; town or country - home or away? Maybe brainstorm a long list and then narrow it down.
- Town or country?
- Who will be the Best Man, Maid of Honour, Ushers and Bridesmaids? Many or few? Future-in-laws or just old friends? Do brothers and sisters make the grade?
- Is it more important for you to have a more lavish wedding and a less expensive honeymoon or the other way round? Or would you consider a buddy moon?
- How important are the flowers and the cake to you? Will you allocate a large proportion of your budget to either, both or none?
- Dress to die for or something a little more modest? Morning suit, black tie, boho or themed?
- How will you travel to the wedding? Horse and carriage, tractor, vintage Rolls?
- Will your reception be just drinks and nibbles, full-blown Wedding Breakfast followed by all-night party or an elite meal for the chosen few? Champagne or Prosecco, beer or cocktails? Church music, live music, iPod music, disco or nothing?
[caption id="attachment_19445" align="aligncenter" ignore-width="595"] Magical wedding table by Anne Edgar Photography
Whatever your first thoughts, sleep on them before you commit yourselves to anything. And try not to be too self-centred, or assume that you know what others are thinking - above all, keep those lines of communication open!
All that really matters is that you and your fiancÃ© are about to embark on a wonderful journey together, of which the Wedding Day, whilst important, is only a very small part of the whole journey. Don't make your marriage about only one day; your future life as a married couple is what really matters.
For more guidance, check out Dessy.com's Wedding Planning Tools to help you on your way. Enjoy!
I've so fallen for bridal gowns with embellished belts but until recently I hadn't realised that you could buy coloured bridal belts too!
So imagine having a really outrageously decorated wedding dress sash for yourself and then more delicate coloured bridal belts for your bridesmaids - what's not to like?
I might choose something like the Millie sash for me:
And then for my girls, I'd go for the Audrey sash with its delicate beads and sequins on lush satin ribbon. Here I've shown them in Midnight (top), Platinum (middle) and Rose (bottom):
Don't you just love this gold Grace bridal belt? And so aptly named, too, when you think how beautiful and golden Grace of Monaco was.:
Last of all, just take a look at this awesome Ava Sash in black satin, vintage-look rhinestone and metallic thread - now if that doesn't make a statement, I don't know what does!